What is physical abuse?
People often assume “physical violence” when they hear about abuse, however that’s not always the case. “Dating abuse” is a pattern of behaviors used by most abusive men to gain or maintain power and control over a partner. Physical violence is just one example of such behavior, but there are many different types of abuse.
The word abuse covers many different ways someone may harm a vulnerable person. Physical abuse is a deliberate bodily injury with the intention of controlling, intimidating, and instilling fear into the victim. Some examples include slapping, pinching, choking, kicking, shoving, or inappropriately using drugs or physical restraints.
Signs of physical abuse include:
- Broken or fractured bones, or evidence of old fractures.
- Burns or scalds, particularly to the feet or the bottom.
- Lacerations to the body or mouth.
- Bite marks.
If you know someone who is the victim of physical abuse you will do well to help them escape their situation.
If you are the victim of abuse, it is imperative first and foremost that you understand the treatment you have received is not what you deserve, and life has so much more to offer you if you can find the willpower and determination to escape from and/or change your circumstance. The person abusing you needs help, but you are not the one to help them, at this time you have a duty of self-care and self-healing. If you fear for your life do not hesitate to contact a women’s refuge, where you will find survivors of what you are currently facing, and you will have people who completely understand your situation and circumstances.
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Love is not violent, Love protects, it is gentle, kind, caring, compassionate, joyful, cheerful, and uplifting. Anyone who says “I love you” but then beats you and is violent and aggressive to you has lied to you, it is impossible to harm the ones you love, however, if they consider you a possession, as something they own and feel they have the right to do to you whatever they dam well feel like, the words “I love you” is nothing more than a trap to guilt trip and manipulate you into staying in the abusive toxic environment. GET OUT! There is so much beauty in life to be experienced, and there is such a thing as a soul mate. But first and foremost you need to heal your soul.
If you know an abuse victim, be a listening ear and a lifeline. Be covert, and research any women’s refuge out of the reach of the abuser.
- Set up a time to talk.
- Let her know you’re concerned about her safety.
- Be supportive.
- Offer specific help.
- Don’t place shame, blame, or guilt on her.
- Help her make a safety plan.
- Encourage her to talk to someone who can help.
- If she decides to stay, continue to be supportive.
- Do NOT break her trust.
Often it is easier for the victim to remain under the control of her abuser, she may need your moral support to muster up the willpower to escape.
If you acknowledge you are the abuser, do you recognize you need help? Your actions are a criminal offense and you can end up in prison serving time. But why? Deep down in your heart, you think you care for your partner, but you also feel the need to punish her, to beat her, to be violent and aggressive to her. Do you know why? There is a saying, “hurt people hurt people”, maybe now is the time to face your demons and understand your pain, fully embrace your life and get 100% complete control of yourself and your emotions. Instead of being someone, your partner needs to escape from, turn your life around and be her hero, her safe haven, her refuge, but first, you will need to expel your demons, and Merge counseling have over 20 years of helping abusive people like you find the inner peace that enables them to turn their life around.
Other kinds of physical abuse, do you beat your child? do you think physically punishing your child is acceptable? please understand that you can be causing psychological trauma in your child, and giving them obstacles they need to overcome in life, putting them way behind their peers who are raised in loving households. If you feel the need to beat your child, contact Merge and learn the benefits of raising your child without physical abuse as a form of punishment.
If you see any of these signs in your relationship seek the help of a professional therapist or support group and if you find yourself trapped in a toxic relationship contact Merge Counselling.com