Gentleman | ˈdʒɛnt(ə)lmən |
noun (plural gentlemen)
1 a chivalrous, courteous, or honourable man: he behaved throughout like a perfect gentleman. • a man of good social position, especially one of wealth and leisure. • a man of noble birth attached to a royal household: a Gentleman of the Bedchamber.
2 a polite or formal way of referring to a man: opposite her, an old gentleman sat reading | can I help you, gentlemen? • used as a courteous title for a male fellow member of the House of Commons or the House of Representatives: the Right Honourable Gentleman opposite.
This is the dictionary definition of Gentleman, chivalrous, courteous, honourable, perfect, noble, polite and courteous are some of the descriptive words, yet all to often people displaying these characteristics can be seen as nothing more than a nice guy or weak. The truth be told, to maintain a gentle heart and mind in today’s society takes a strength of character not many men possess, but every man has the potential to live by. But what is the difference between the man who uses his potential to be a Gentleman and the man who does not? in a word, Integrity.
Being Male is simply the chance of genetics, being a man is just a matter of time, yet being a Gentleman is a matter of choice, a decision, and having Integrity is the foundation of naturally possessing many Gentlemanly qualities by choice.
So what is integrity?
The quality of being honest and having strong moral principles: a gentleman of complete integrity. The state of being whole and undivided, think of structural Integrity. Would you cross a bridge that has no integrity, or drive in a car with no structural integrity? The Integrity of something defines its sturdiness, its ruggedness, its stability, and its reliability.
The very first steps therefore in being a true Gentleman is a willingness to look at one’s self and grow in character.
Be willing to speak the truth, be willing to be honest, be willing to protect weaker people, be willing to own your mistakes, be willing to learn be willing to let your love for life be strong, be willing to protect your love for humanity. If you find yourself resistance to being honest, helpful, kind and considerate, then you are deficient of qualities that qualify you as a gentleman.